Where I live there is a TV show called Married at First Sight, in which people are matched by experts, and then simulate a marriage as the cameras are rolling. The experts refer to the relationships unfolding as experiments, probably because the so-called marriages on the show are not real.

But the use of this word experiments is more accurate than the audiences, or most likely the experts, truly understand.

Let me be candid, all relationships are experiments, used by our souls for the sake of having the right experiences that THEY wish to have. Now these experiences may feel good, and they may feel bad to the human being going through them.

Romantic relationships are for many people, the hardest ones to ‘get right’, and for this reason they can have a significant influence on our state of emotional wellbeing. They can be complex human interactions, in which so much can go right or wrong, depending on a diversity of factors, including our level of self-awareness, and our desire to make them work.

However, what we so often don’t understand, is that the universe, or love, often brings us into contact with the right, wrong person to give us, or more specifically our souls, a difficult experience that is needed to enhance our self-awareness. These may feel bad, but like every experiment a learning is always possible, regardless of the outcome.

Sometimes an experiment may result in a wonderful outcome and the feeling of elation, but sometimes we will feel like we have failed to create something successful. However, I would encourage you to think again.

The universe is a giant experiment in self-awareness. And within that giant experiment are the individual experiments that we all take part in. 

The key to relationships, particularly romantic ones is to learn from them, regardless of the outcome. Once we learn our lessons, the outcomes we have experienced are not likely to repeat for we are likely to approach them in a different way next time.

If we don’t learn and change, guess what is certain – we will get another chance to learn from the same experiment. It may be with a different person in a different place, but the core experiment is almost certainly unfolding. And the mirror of love can be very unforgiving and ruthless as I had the opportunity to discover multiple times in my life .

My advice is to learn from each new romance, for this is the best way to come together with the person of your dreams, in the relationship that you always wanted.

Become the professor of your own love life!